This was really tough to read after reading Aya Goda's Tao On the Road and on the Run in Outlaw China, and I'll be the first to admit that my rating may be so low because of simple bad placement in my reading line-up. In Goda's book, the author is truly a wild and free spirit in a country that oppresses her. She does cling to men to find her way, but she does find her true path. In this book, the heroine is a "traditional" Chinese woman, struggling with her culture and the inherent oppression in it, but never really finding her true, authentic path. Going on her journey through 500 pages of dodging and weaving men and their expectations of her, I was exhausted by the end and the final pages that "wrap it up?" Disappointing to say the LEAST! I also always feel a little unsure about white people writing as another ethnicity, even though the author obviously has a lot of experience living in Shanghai and China - still, is this really her story to tell?